If you have been online dating for some time, you know that finding someone who interests you and who you have a natural connection with is a little difficult. Online dating is actually like a game of chance; you post your profile and add some photos and strike up a conversation with someone you find interesting. You hope and pray that the person on the other end of the Internet world feels the same about you. If he is, good for you! If he is not, you’ll have to go back to square one.
But this should not dampen your spirits, and you should not lose hope. Whether you are a first-timer or have been doing it for quite some time, there are some things you need to do if you want to succeed at online dating. Here are four of them:
1. Choose a good (or eye-popping) profile photo.
Everything starts with your profile picture. Your picture is what online dating site members look at or see first. It’s like the first thing that gives them an impression of you. Therefore, you have to use a photo that shows off everything great about you. A photo that flaunts your physical advantages; but none of the sexy, topless, too-revealing pictures, please! Also, avoid using photos that are heavily edited; the more natural, the better. Your profile should have a photo that shows a fun-loving, positive-thinking, happy, and confident person.
2. Complement your profile photo with an interesting profile write-up.
Once someone clicks on your photo, the next thing he’ll want to find out is how you are as a person. Do you have the same interests? Are you fun to be with? What’s unique about you? Remember: everyone will want to say “I am an honest and loyal person” or “I like spending romantic evenings with a special someone,” so avoid writing these. Instead, in the simplest words possible, describe who you are and why you are unique. Don’t follow the cliché and the ordinary. Be extraordinary and stand out. Don’t forget to mention your hobbies or the things that you love to do. This is one of the factors that will help a person determine whether you are like-minded individuals or not.
3. Send a message first.
When you find someone interesting, don’t get too excited! You won’t get noticed if you do not send a message first. So, as regularly as you can, send out messages to people, you think you’d like to connect with. Make the messages short but concise. And do not copy-paste.
4. Don’t be too emotional.
In an online dating site, you can talk to several people at one time. Others do this a lot, too. So avoid being too emotional and feeling bad because you’re not the only one he is talking to. You have the option to do the same.